“…we carry around in our back pocket like a phone and hope no one notices. Once in a while, we pull it out, open an app, and share it hoping no one thinks we consider our story worse than theirs.”
This post resonates with me. I didn't talk when called on in school, and my elementary school suggested to my parents that I be tested for hearing loss! They might have understood it was a trauma response if they had taken the time to understand my situation. I was quiet and withdrawn, but I didn't cause trouble, so I fell through the cracks. I wonder now if the school was so concerned about me why they didn't suggest my parents take me for counseling, and my parents never considered that either. I've had clients ask the same questions, and I tell them and my younger self that you and your pain are worth noticing. Children mask so much pain and chaos behind protective defenses, and it's time that all involved do better.
Catching up on comments tonight. It is the quiet ones who fall through the cracks. They do mask so much. My work with educators over the past five years has encouraged me as more and more realize this!
“…we carry around in our back pocket like a phone and hope no one notices. Once in a while, we pull it out, open an app, and share it hoping no one thinks we consider our story worse than theirs.”
Processing this picture - so true!!
This post resonates with me. I didn't talk when called on in school, and my elementary school suggested to my parents that I be tested for hearing loss! They might have understood it was a trauma response if they had taken the time to understand my situation. I was quiet and withdrawn, but I didn't cause trouble, so I fell through the cracks. I wonder now if the school was so concerned about me why they didn't suggest my parents take me for counseling, and my parents never considered that either. I've had clients ask the same questions, and I tell them and my younger self that you and your pain are worth noticing. Children mask so much pain and chaos behind protective defenses, and it's time that all involved do better.
Catching up on comments tonight. It is the quiet ones who fall through the cracks. They do mask so much. My work with educators over the past five years has encouraged me as more and more realize this!