Singing Our Marriage with a Song!

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Yesterday’s post, Unpack that Baggage provided word pictures for what codependency looked like for Scott and me. Before I wrote it, I wondered if a song would illustrate what codependency looked like. It didn’t take me more than a minute to remember this song from my teenage years.

Many of the characteristics of co-dependency are in these lyrics. I compared the lyrics to a list of common signs of codependency and maybe stretched it a bit, but not much! You can see the entire list here.

• I want you to want me/I need you to need me/I'd love you to love me/I'm beggin' you to beg me

  • a deep-seated need for approval from others

  • overwhelming fears of rejection or abandonment

• I'll shine up my old brown shoes/I'll put on a brand new shirt/I'll get home early from work/If you say that you love me

  • doing things you don’t really want to do, simply to make others happy

  • self-worth that depends on what others think about you

  • a habit of taking on more work than you can realistically handle, both to earn praise or lighten a loved one’s burden

• Didn't I, didn't I, didn't I/See you cryin'/Feelin' all alone without a friend/You know you feel like dyin'

  • excessive concern about a loved one’s habits or behaviors

  • a mood that reflects how others feel, rather than your own emotions

Then, Scott and I wondered if we could describe our marriage with songs . . .