Do you think that, as children, we have no choice but to blame ourselves is related to magical thinking? I mean the idea that we have to see ourselves as having some illusory sense of control because the alternative is too terrifying: that our parent is incapable of loving us?
I think it is simply assumed by an egocentric child that they are a cause of everything--thus yes, magical thinking. It is also true that being loved gets convoluted with being harmed. That traps many adults who were harmed as children!
Do you think that, as children, we have no choice but to blame ourselves is related to magical thinking? I mean the idea that we have to see ourselves as having some illusory sense of control because the alternative is too terrifying: that our parent is incapable of loving us?
I think it is simply assumed by an egocentric child that they are a cause of everything--thus yes, magical thinking. It is also true that being loved gets convoluted with being harmed. That traps many adults who were harmed as children!