Your title immediately caught my eye! I was telling someone today that I feel like I'm going back and forth between feeling like I need to keep going and it's difficult to stop at times, and feeling like I'm crashing/shutting down at other times. I was initially thinking maybe it's the time of year. We've just passed a traumatic anniversary, and I have three family members who died in the month of March years ago. Then it clicked with me that trauma can make it difficult to stop—to relax—even when it's okay. And trauma can make things seem so overwhelming that shutting down makes sense. Here's to finding a rhythm—a balance....
As I read, I related and could hear my therapist saying, "So, you are human?" Emotions do fluctuate all day long and from day to day. I think the concept of staying within the Window of Tolerance has helped me most. Calm isn't the answer. Bicycle pedals that don't go up and down aren't the answer. LOL But if they fly off the bike, that is a problem.
I have a special place in my heart for your therapist! 😁 And yes—the window of tolerance. Learning to relax is kind of amazing—and then you realize you didn’t really know how to do that. And I know at this point in my life it’s more of a surprise when I’m there (truly able to relax and be okay with it) than when I’m not.
Your title immediately caught my eye! I was telling someone today that I feel like I'm going back and forth between feeling like I need to keep going and it's difficult to stop at times, and feeling like I'm crashing/shutting down at other times. I was initially thinking maybe it's the time of year. We've just passed a traumatic anniversary, and I have three family members who died in the month of March years ago. Then it clicked with me that trauma can make it difficult to stop—to relax—even when it's okay. And trauma can make things seem so overwhelming that shutting down makes sense. Here's to finding a rhythm—a balance....
As I read, I related and could hear my therapist saying, "So, you are human?" Emotions do fluctuate all day long and from day to day. I think the concept of staying within the Window of Tolerance has helped me most. Calm isn't the answer. Bicycle pedals that don't go up and down aren't the answer. LOL But if they fly off the bike, that is a problem.
I have a special place in my heart for your therapist! 😁 And yes—the window of tolerance. Learning to relax is kind of amazing—and then you realize you didn’t really know how to do that. And I know at this point in my life it’s more of a surprise when I’m there (truly able to relax and be okay with it) than when I’m not.